tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post7079224401807910432..comments2023-07-27T06:15:34.078-07:00Comments on INSIDE - My Life as a Gay Mormon: RandomsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-1251953339752555202009-07-12T17:28:02.159-07:002009-07-12T17:28:02.159-07:00Of course I know to use a condom... but I have nev...Of course I know to use a condom... but I have never had anal sex. And I know kissing doesn't give HIV. It would come from oral.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12900720352902803908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-20166564672190801962009-07-12T11:23:44.733-07:002009-07-12T11:23:44.733-07:00Hi Quinn,
I just want to make a practical comment...Hi Quinn,<br /><br />I just want to make a practical comment. The way to prevent HIV infection is not to ask guys you mess around with if they are clean. The way to prevent HIV is to use a latex barrier (a condom) to prevent blood or semen from coming in contact with mucous membranes or open cuts or sores. You don't get HIV from kissing or touching. Even though it may not apply to you right now, it's a good idea to go and get educated about techniques for protecting yourself from infection.<br /><br />Best of luck to you in your journey.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-5173670283473845502009-07-08T21:30:16.394-07:002009-07-08T21:30:16.394-07:00Well if you haven't been to the doctor in a ye...Well if you haven't been to the doctor in a year, there's your excuse. You should go once a year anyway!<br /><br />Of course my first real physical since I was 19 and my oldest brother gave me one for my mission. Well, apart from the joke physicals I had to take every few years when I had my private pilot license active.<br /><br />Hang in there on the Church thing. At the end of the day, you have to do what feels right, not what everyone around you thinks is right. I was exactly where you are for many years. It's hard to find that balance, and I didn't make the hard decision until I was forced to for a variety of reasons.<br /><br />Just don't be too tough on yourself over the porn / masturbation stuff. You are human, and plenty of straight men without a partner do the same thing. I'm not asking you to compromise your standards. Just don't beat yourself up over it.ControllerOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04161975934417545717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-10244091524676317492009-07-08T21:04:25.746-07:002009-07-08T21:04:25.746-07:00Hey, I wasn't mad at all at what you had to sa...Hey, I wasn't mad at all at what you had to say about being yourself. I agree. I have a LDS friend who is also gay, and choosing to leave the church to "be herself" and I said to her pretty much what you said to me. That I can't leave the church because it is as much a part of me as being attracted to men is a part of me.<br /><br />Good idea on the doc idea, however its been a good year since I have seen the doc. I'm a pretty healthy person and don't go in at all. But maybe I will now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12900720352902803908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-88904428986596444552009-07-08T20:43:23.542-07:002009-07-08T20:43:23.542-07:00Sorry about the truly awful grammar. And thanks f...Sorry about the truly awful grammar. And thanks for the comment on my blog!ControllerOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04161975934417545717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-63497905345361874412009-07-08T20:41:32.179-07:002009-07-08T20:41:32.179-07:00Oh, and did you get tested? A suggestion: I had ...Oh, and did you get tested? A suggestion: I had a regular old physical the other day. Typically you see Dr. X, he then gives you a lab slip, and you go get blood work done. Just mention to Dr. X that you would like to be tested for HIV (AIDs is harder to say and it's an HIV test anyway), and he should just add it to the panel of regular tests.<br /><br />I would be shocked if he/she even batted on eye. Doctors have heard it all, have lots of gay/sexually active/drug using patients and won't even pause. In my past life I was an attorney and, while it's not nearly the same thing, trust me when I tell you that after a while nothing surprises or shocks you.<br /><br />Good luck. And be careful if you are sexually active.ControllerOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04161975934417545717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-9612434691513646992009-07-08T20:34:47.225-07:002009-07-08T20:34:47.225-07:00Read this through before you get mad. Be yourself...Read this through before you get mad. Be yourself!<br /><br />Now, I know you hate that but I have a really different view of what "being yourself" is than a lot of people. And this view is from someone who no longer is active or interested in being active in the Church.<br /><br />"Yourself" is many things. A stake president's son. An adult male who happens to be gay. A brother. A friend. Fat or slim. Handsome or not so much. Etc.<br /><br />One of those things is a Mormon. That IS part of "yourself". A big part. People who tell you just accept that you are gay and reject that you are Mormon and simply asking you to NOT be yourself. Not unlike a member of the Church saying reject that you are Mormon and reject that you are gay.<br /><br />Hopefully that made sense. I am striving towards getting comfortable that I am many things that often conflict but must be reconciled in some way if I want to be happy.ControllerOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04161975934417545717noreply@blogger.com