tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post6350660922092501071..comments2023-07-27T06:15:34.078-07:00Comments on INSIDE - My Life as a Gay Mormon: The Duplicity of Mormon WeddingsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-65049472021216839752015-10-30T05:48:58.819-07:002015-10-30T05:48:58.819-07:00It does make a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing...It does make a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-60679778696698398052015-10-22T10:11:17.771-07:002015-10-22T10:11:17.771-07:00You know it is a tough call--everyone's family...You know it is a tough call--everyone's family is different based on their current stand or beliefs.<br /><br />For both of our families--as LDS as they get--are VERY supportive of us as a couple, they always included us in all family activities (birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving and even their LDS events--blessings, baptisms, missions and such) and we've been supportive as well---after all it has to go both ways.<br /><br />The tricky part for us was that we never really broach politics or religion in the open like that--it is more of an understated "love you and support you as my relative unconditionally" and we had never really asked the family point blank about their stance on gay marriage, or their level of support. They certainly have never even as much as "liked" or commented any of my Facebook posts about SCOTUS decisions so our assumption (again in an effort to NOT put people on the spot) was that they may or may not be all out supportive publicly--but they are definitely one-on-one as we're finding and as my new mother-in-law has said: "I won't go wave a flag may not go to pride with you but I support and love you both"--which I believe is the stance more or less that everyone else follows.<br /><br />Again, that's what worked for us--If I had to do it all over again I would likely to the same thing but that's just because of our situation and trying to read in between the lines of supportive family members vs their public stance on issues.... if that makes any sense.<br />Hugs,MiguelMiguelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04203771368783213108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-90285968989975106522015-10-21T19:19:32.775-07:002015-10-21T19:19:32.775-07:00Miguel, if you were to do it over again, would you...Miguel, if you were to do it over again, would you go about telling people the same way? I think for me, I would just be to happy and not be able to withhold the news (even though I would be hesitant too).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-88760984648744087232015-10-20T12:54:31.908-07:002015-10-20T12:54:31.908-07:00We are dealing with some of this now as we tried t...We are dealing with some of this now as we tried to figure out if we made a big announcement and invited/expected everyone to come to our wedding. So rather than put everyone on the spot we decided to get married (for us and so it is meaningful just for us) and throw a party next year on our anniversary where everyone can participate in the wedding celebration without necessarily making a statement. <br /><br />The only thing was--we didn't tell anyone about it until now--we're slowly getting the word out to family & friends, it has been a good response so far (especially from our very LDS families) and they have time to get used to the idea of being in the celebration next year. But I've seen a few of my friends being supported even by their LDS families--don't be surprised and give people the benefit of the doubt, they might just be as supportive as any other heterosexual couple's wedding.<br /><br />BUT I TOTALLY GET YOUR POINT...<br /><br />Hugs,MiguelMiguelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04203771368783213108noreply@blogger.com