tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post3540476080838394630..comments2023-07-27T06:15:34.078-07:00Comments on INSIDE - My Life as a Gay Mormon: The Challenges of Gay Mormon DatingAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-31841310840087260282015-09-12T11:50:18.473-07:002015-09-12T11:50:18.473-07:00I so agree with you John. It is like we are condit...I so agree with you John. It is like we are conditions in Primary to give added weight to what the church and its members think of ourselves. Really we should ONLY care what God thinks of us. Thank you for your reminder of that!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-40274855682488975332015-09-03T14:51:47.903-07:002015-09-03T14:51:47.903-07:00I loved reading your comments. As a 61-year old G...I loved reading your comments. As a 61-year old Gay Mormon I empathize with all that you discussed. I had removed myself from the records of the Church shortly after my 17-year marriage. I lived in Southern California and enjoyed hanging out with gay friends. When I made my difficult choice a few years ago to come back to Church and have all of my blessings restored I felt great. Now I feel lonely as can be, but at least my ward is extremely supportive of me, even though I still feel like a freak. Anyway...I noticed that in the above comments you commented a lot about the Church and Church members attitudes toward your decisions. I agree that we do put a lot of stock in how we are thought of by Church members. What I have done is to ask myself what Heavenly Father and Jesus think about the lifestyle "choices" I made. I really don't give a d*** what the Church and it's members think. Rather, I want our loving Savior to be proud of me, and I know he is a lot more patient and understanding than Church members. Just a thought. I think it is a good thing that you are doing what you feel is right for you, though.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12929541540395083443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-60934806860745636462015-08-22T12:37:36.045-07:002015-08-22T12:37:36.045-07:00Thanks Niall for stopping by. I'm curious how ...Thanks Niall for stopping by. I'm curious how you came to find my blog?<br /><br />Thanks for the corrections, I don't always see those when I am editing. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-66958901882842829172015-08-22T08:44:28.707-07:002015-08-22T08:44:28.707-07:00Just a random passer by (not mormon, though a man ...Just a random passer by (not mormon, though a man attracted to men).<br /><br />I really liked your level headed post and I think that MOHO is a great idea (for each person to post their own perspective)<br /><br />In case it's useful, two minor typos:<br /> - hostel --> hostile<br /> - you wrote: "It was tolerated like it is today." I think you meant "It was not tolerated like it is today."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13700511157793270223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-19285179101920304152015-08-19T05:40:57.436-07:002015-08-19T05:40:57.436-07:00James, you are absolutely right! I have become so ...James, you are absolutely right! I have become so accustom to not being authentic, that now I feel the fake me is authentic. It is very sad, and until you pointed it out, I never realized it. <br /><br />I need to work on being more authentic, even if it makes me uncomfortable. I guess it's time for some others to feel uncomfortable at church and experience what it is like to be me ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-60394468165246052232015-08-19T05:38:23.160-07:002015-08-19T05:38:23.160-07:00Miguel, thanks for the comment. I think you are ri...Miguel, thanks for the comment. I think you are right, little bits, over time will help me become more comfortable with things. It is just sad we still cannot not be who we are because of fear.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11814495288142840602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-86259129114304651832015-08-18T19:01:31.678-07:002015-08-18T19:01:31.678-07:00Just a thought...you wrote that "It's eas...Just a thought...you wrote that "It's easy to be authentic at church," and then went on to list a bunch of things that you must do at church in order to fit in. They all seemed a bit inauthentic to me. (I don't mean that to come off as calling you a liar or anything.) Why is it that if we are gay, and we are open about it, that we still have to hide our thoughts and feelings? Why can't you express your liberal views in Sunday School? Why do you have to keep your social media posts quiet and unnoticeable? Is it so that they won't judge you? So they will accept you? It's quite the pitiful existence to be honest...and I say that admitting that when I'm around LDS people I do the same thing. I always kick myself for it afterwards. This is one of the main reasons I don't go to church on Sundays...I can't spend all that time acting.Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06453810842402496943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5401055091892091482.post-6398035140135067182015-08-18T09:37:58.391-07:002015-08-18T09:37:58.391-07:00Interesting thoughts.
I felt the same sense of a...Interesting thoughts. <br /><br />I felt the same sense of anxiety when I started being public about being in a relationship. To those who knew I am gay it wasn't even an issue to say "This is my boyfriend (insert name here)". Those who didn't quite know I was out it became "This is (insert name here)"--no further explanation and I let them think whatever they wanted.<br /><br />In time it became more comfortable to deal with the whole thing and not even care what people think or what reactions they'll have--the key in my opinion is: Be factual and don't make a big deal out of it--you will see that neither will people--really they won't care as you progress from "this is (insert name here)" to "This is my boyfriend/partner/husband" it will just be be natural thing.<br />Hugs,MiguelMiguelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04203771368783213108noreply@blogger.com