I had some interesting conversations with people at work this week that brought up some interesting observations.
"Oh?" I inquired.
"He is very happy all the time, very good with people, even a little flamboyant in that area." I became a little dishearten when she said that. "I'm not flamboyant in any area." I reassured myself. She went on to describe him more, which her descriptions lead me to believe he was gay.
I also went in to meet a new person who was working at the bank branch at my work, and she said I always looked so happy, and always look high on life. I was quite taken aback by this, as I never considered myself a happy person, but I was appreciative of her compliments.
Then I got to thinking, were these characteristics I had what lead some in my department at work to assume I was gay before I came out. Is my happy go lucky attitude a red flag of my sexual orientation? When we see hollywood gays, we see bitchy boys with attitudes, not cheerful pleasant people.
I have quite a knack for being sociable at work (which I wish would translate into my normal social life). I make jokes, have fun and am very laid back. I am very intuitive and a good listener. I am sensitive and eager to hear ones problems. Do those things set off peoples gay-dar at work?
Does being a sociable butterfly make a man gay? I don't think so. But is a gay man a social butterfly? More often then not yes. I don't know why, and It doesn't really matter. Just something I got to thinking about recently.
I am not going to hide these characteristics of myself, because they are who I am, and I love that I come across this way. I just found it interesting.