October 28, 2009

My Friendship Problem


I have a problem, and need some help or advice.

Every guy friend I have, I fall for.

What do I do?

7 comments:

  1. One thing that you might want to do is think about what you consider them first and foremost. What do you want from them? Friendship or relationship? If it is a friendship, focus on that and don't let yourself think about the alternative. It takes some effort but it can be done. I fell for my best friend, but I focused on the friendship and didn't let my thoughts wander. It worked and we have a great friendship still.

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  2. I think part of it might be a result of being more conscious of the attraction exploring it more...i.e. through the blog, hanging out with guys who are gay, etc. I'm guessing as time passes you won't be attracted to them as much. I think if you try to avoid having guy friends so that you won't crush probably won't help, just in case you were thinking that:) Let yourself go through it and have faith that you'll be able to figure out a good balance.

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  3. I agree with Sean that friendships can be kept to certain bounds in your thoughts (I just haven't yet blogged about the ones that've worked out that way for me), but I don't think that's ALWAYS the case. So there's a balancing act to be learned: how much to try to confine a relationship, and when to step away. If you're falling for "EVERY" guy friend, I'd say you can probably change a lot of that in the way you approach friendships, like not expecting any one person to fill every role in your life, thus overromanticizing him or his friendship. Blah blah blah, I'm talking too much. Someone else's turn.

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  4. I wish this was a problem I had.

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  5. I'm not sure the problem, I suppose I want a relationship so much, every guy is a possibility.

    You're right I need to analyze and evaluate, otherwise I could drive myself crazy, or the guy.

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  6. Hmmm...this is a tough situation to be in. Just set personal boundaries for yourself. I mean, I've fallen for a couple of straight guys and I know nothing will happen with them, so I stop entertaining the idea. Maybe that will work.

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